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The Pros and Cons of Cohabitating Before Marriage
What every young adult should know before saying I do
Read this first: The bible does not state that living together before marriage is a sin. It is nowhere in there. However, the reason it is frowned upon by Christians(and some other non-Christians), is because living together implies that there will be fornication before the marriage vows.
My husband and I lived together for quite a few years before we got married and we were and still are “Christians”- I use the term loosely.
So here is my advice to you based on my own experience. No matter what, the decision is the one made in your own heart.
The Pros
It is a trial period
This is the time where you will see if you can count on one another for food, shelter, and any other necessities. In some relationships, the breadwinner pays for everything while the “housewife/househusband” stays home. During this trial period, you will see how it works from either perspective. For example, because utilities are more expensive, it would do well to go 50/50 with bills unless you agree that one person will take care of finances.
During the trial period is where you learn quite a lot about a person:
