Are Black Women Really Policing Black Men’s Penises? Let’s Talk.

Well, some entity is policing it, but do we really want to go there?

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I was watching a YouTube video on colorism when I spotted a familiar refrain in the comments: “Black women are still trying to police who Black men sleep with.”

It’s a loaded accusation. But let’s look at it historically, socially, and personally. Who’s doing the policing when it comes to Black men’s sexual choices? Below are a few truths that might challenge what you think you know.

Plantation owners policed your peens first

Let’s keep it 100 — Black men’s bodies were being policed long before any YouTube comment section existed.

During slavery, Black men and women were reduced to breeders. No autonomy. No love. Just reproduction for profit. It wasn’t intimacy — it was inventory. And yes, many Black men likely viewed Black women not as partners, but as vessels under a system that didn’t allow room for anything else.

This isn’t a theory. It’s history.

And if we go even further back, according to The Destruction of Black Civilization*, there were systems of exploitation within African cultures too — Black women being pimped or traded by their…